*Slaps Forehead*

Why can't the universe space events out a little more for me ... lucky my best work is done when I am under pressure!

So Monday morning pick up I thought was going well, said good bye to my boy, packed some undies in his bag ( LOL) and off he went.  About 30 seconds later he is knocking at the door.  Dam! I take a big breath and open it.  He has a little package in his hand which he wants to give to DD.  I tell no thank you, no gifts are wanted from him.  I go to close the door and he has hold of the handle and wont let go. He is trying to push it open wider.  I ask him again to let go so I can close the door.  He starts yelling DD name - loudly.  Poor kid ignores him.  DD is in the other room and I can see my cell phone on the table.  I normally have it on me when I know he is going to be around.  I ask her calmly to bring it to me while I use my strength to stop him opening the door any further.  Once I have my phone he mumbles and grunts and walks away.

I walk into the lounge room and DD first words to me are "What an idiot".  Yep babe you hit the nail on the head.

Today

I get an email from DS lawyer, it is a letter outlining a few things.  But the one that sticks out is that FIL has contacted her regarding his concerns around how I and him are arguing at the moment.  And that I didn't hand the passport back to him but I did instead give it to the lawyer to keep in her safe.

Firstly I am not arguing, I am however being harassed and intimidated.  And the passport, I don't want him to keep and he doesn't want me to keep.  I think what I have done is completely reasonable in handing it to a third party who represents DS.  Angry!

Then I go to pick DS up from kinder this afternoon.  Before I have even got through the door they have pulled me aside.  DS has been very angry yesterday and today.  He told them that Daddy told him he didn't want him anymore and that he can stay with Mummy all the time.  And that Daddy had a fight with the man because of money, and now they are going to have to move.

My heart hurts for the little guy.  Even if they weren't the words that were used something has happened with his Dad.  And if I had my way he would be with me every day and night.

As for the man and the money.  He has moved 7 times in the last 12 months.  From his own flat to share accommodation, to a back packers and even a stint living out of his car and a trailer.  He moved a few weeks ago again and I am thinking he is not getting along with the new flat mates.  He never tells me any of this I always find out from DS and then I have to ask him.  DS tells me I never push him for information.  

I have expressed my concerns to the court that I don't think share accommodation is suitable for a little person and also advised them as soon as I knew that he was homeless.  Still late last year a Judge decided to split the day to Day care 50/50.  *slaps forehead*

He never gets along with anyone.  He has trespass notices against him at two major retailers in our area and also at WINZ ( Aussie translation - Centrelink).  He needs to use an advocacy group to help him contact them on his behalf.  They are now refusing to help him.  By the way if you hadn't guessed he is unemployed and never really has held down a job for longer than a couple of months.

I don't know what to do with this new information yet.  I will let it digest over night and figure something out.  *sigh*